A Note from Ty___

Hey there, fellow human.

Here we find ourselves. I’ll bet we’ve both been in quite a similar headspace as you are in this moment. Our stories likely look different, but if you’ve read to this point, I’d imagine that you are ready. Ready to find that spark within yourself again, within your relationships. Ready to cherish this gift of life you’ve been entrusted with. Whatever your “ready” might be, you’re not alone.

In my own story, I have witnessed addiction and deep mental health struggles within my family of origin; I was “scarlet lettered” by my community when I lost my virginity and "disacknowledged", leading to a failed marriage before I turned 22; I am a member of the stillbirth parent club and my path to motherhood was filled with heartache before the triumph of my son’s arrival.

I like to joke that if the goal of creating humans was to experience through us, god has gotten quite a lot from me :) I have lived hard and loud and weird and well, and have spent my time here learning invaluable lessons and skills, ones of creativity and passion, but more importantly, ones of empathy and understanding and forgiveness. This life has taught me, thus far, what intimacy and relationship look like at the both the top of the mountain and the bottom of the valley.

I tell you these things, not only to allow you a bit of insight into what shapes my worldview as a coach, but as a reminder that everyone has messy shit in their lives. You’re not alone.

When you’ve spent so much time and energy learning how to hide yourself, learning how to compensate, learning to put a smile on your face or a lie on your lips to keep the peace, it becomes easy to convince yourself that you’re all alone on this wide sphere. Certainly when it comes to our sexuality, this oh-so-shadowy thing that many of us have been taught not to speak of.

Trust me. You’re not alone. 

It can feel daunting to open yourself up to a stranger, and I recognize that I am asking quite a bit by seeking your trust. The choice is always yours, as is the trust we allow to everyone, but I will tell you this: my life has taught me softness, acceptance, and a way of looking at things that makes mountaintops seem reachable when broken down by steps. I welcome the chance to utilize these skills and walk with you along the path towards your own wellbeing and happiness.

I believe that our sexual beings are at the core of who we are as full human beings and that we owe it to ourselves to live a life of authenticity and joy, a life of communication and community, a life where our relationships are lived to their utmost potential, free of the falsities we’ve become far too accustomed to. When we loosen the aching grip of our baggage and shame, we allow ourselves to experience intimacy in full acceptance of who we are and who others are too. 

This is my definition of prosperity, allowing humanity to thrive through our own personal growth and acceptance. Through shedding layers of shame and allowing others to do the same.  

Rousseau starts off “The Social Contract” with a line that encapsulates the state of modern sexuality and relationship so beautifully to me - 

"Man is born free and everywhere he is in chains."

Let’s remove the chains together.

…unless, of course, you’re into that sort of thing.

With Hope for Joy and Triumph,

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Ty